1.) What is the second shift? The second shift according to the reading is the job away from the regular nine to five. The second shift consists of the labor dedicated to the up keep of the household like the laundry , cooking ,shopping, cleaning, repairs, landscaping etc.
2.) Nancy and Evan both work full time jobs they have a young child and they both are clearly stressed. Nancy does a majority of the house work as well as care for their son Joey. There is a major leisure gap between Nancy and Evan. Like most women unfortunately Nancy is responsible for a majority of the house work and child rearing. Nancy and Evan try to fix there issues but can't seem to get on the same page. Nancy is clearly the one that is most affected by the second shift. Evan has typical views for women and their role in the household and as care givers. Nancy grew up in a household were her mom was depressed and had low self esteem do to her fathers views on the role of a wife. She fears that she will be like her mother if this burden continues.
3.) The family myth that Nancy and Evan created broke down the household cleaning duties. Nancy would clean the up stairs which included the living room, dining room, kitchen, two bedrooms and two bath rooms. The down stairs which Evan was responsible for cleaning consisted of the garage which included the car, and the family pet.
4.) The myth was created in order to create an illusion that the household duties were being divided equally amongst Nancy and Evan which was certainly not the case.
5.) The reading wasn't that surprising to me I have seen this type of lifestyle on many occasions in my life. Most women in my family partake in a overwhelming second shift including my mother. When I am married and have my own house I plan on helping out when I can and make sure my wife doesn't get stressed out with the second shift. I plan on being most responsible for the exterior of the house while still helping with cooking, laundry, and child care. As my kids get older they will become more responsible for things like dishes, laundry, garbage etc. I will make sure I help out as much as possible so the second shift can be balanced.
Monday, November 16, 2009
Monday, November 2, 2009
Marriage
1) Attitudes changed from 1950's to the 1970's becuase of the psycological revolution which was a transformation in the way people look at marriage, parenthood, and their lives in general. by the 1970's people became more psycologically oriented, seeking emotional warmth and intamacy in marriage. People veiwed marriage as more than just a role playing experiance they began to dream and want bigger and better things while excpect more than just the standard husband or wife.
2)The rise in educated women as well as men between the 1950's and 1970's sparked this change concerning veiws of marriage. Also the social acceptance of divorce in society made this type of change in veiws of marriage more acceptable and more common.
3)In the 1970's marital research improved greatly and reinforced the changes of the time. Before most of the marital research was submitted via surveys that husbands and wives would fill out. When social scientist began to observe families themselves they saw much more important information compared to the old fashion surveys. The new technology of video taping made it possible for researchers to compare and contrast a couple over a period of time, this allowed researchers to notice negatives and positives over a longer period of time than before. This also brought about books and education concerning marriage.
4) When she says that " Marriage is a movie not a snap shot" she is elaborating on the fact that a marriage is something that is constantly changing. There are diffrent scence or stage, There are diffrent characters, Diffrent trials and tribulations as well as diffrent beginings and endings for each marriage. A snap shot is set in stone, there is no room for improvement or decline, the snap shot is also symbolic of a moment while a movie is symbolic of many moments. This phylosiphy can relate to how we study marriages becuase as researchers we have to understand that marriage is not the same movie or snap shot for everyone. Marriage is constantley changing in our society so the reaserch has to change with it. We have to learn from the lessons of those in the past and move on. We can't compare marital expectations from the 50"s with the one's today we are in a diffrent time. We have to study families individually and compare and contrast it has to be on a micro level not a macro. With the technology we have today we should be able to get more reliable and helpful information.
5) I did a little research in to the tossing of the bouquets. Most wedding guest believe that brides are good luck. Many people especially single women hope that gathering to celebrate on the wedding day will grant them luck in finding a husband. In the 14th century single women would actually want to take pieces of the brides dress in hopes of aiding in the search of a husband. Women would chase after the bride attempting to tear a piecec of good luck from her body. Instead of having her dress ripped to pieces the idea to throw the bouquet of flowers came about. By throwing the flower this allowed the bride time to get away from the crowd fully clothed. The throwing of the bouquet is associated with good fortune and a bit of fun. At my wedding my wife will throw her bouquet I just hope none of my baby sisters cathes it.
2)The rise in educated women as well as men between the 1950's and 1970's sparked this change concerning veiws of marriage. Also the social acceptance of divorce in society made this type of change in veiws of marriage more acceptable and more common.
3)In the 1970's marital research improved greatly and reinforced the changes of the time. Before most of the marital research was submitted via surveys that husbands and wives would fill out. When social scientist began to observe families themselves they saw much more important information compared to the old fashion surveys. The new technology of video taping made it possible for researchers to compare and contrast a couple over a period of time, this allowed researchers to notice negatives and positives over a longer period of time than before. This also brought about books and education concerning marriage.
4) When she says that " Marriage is a movie not a snap shot" she is elaborating on the fact that a marriage is something that is constantly changing. There are diffrent scence or stage, There are diffrent characters, Diffrent trials and tribulations as well as diffrent beginings and endings for each marriage. A snap shot is set in stone, there is no room for improvement or decline, the snap shot is also symbolic of a moment while a movie is symbolic of many moments. This phylosiphy can relate to how we study marriages becuase as researchers we have to understand that marriage is not the same movie or snap shot for everyone. Marriage is constantley changing in our society so the reaserch has to change with it. We have to learn from the lessons of those in the past and move on. We can't compare marital expectations from the 50"s with the one's today we are in a diffrent time. We have to study families individually and compare and contrast it has to be on a micro level not a macro. With the technology we have today we should be able to get more reliable and helpful information.
5) I did a little research in to the tossing of the bouquets. Most wedding guest believe that brides are good luck. Many people especially single women hope that gathering to celebrate on the wedding day will grant them luck in finding a husband. In the 14th century single women would actually want to take pieces of the brides dress in hopes of aiding in the search of a husband. Women would chase after the bride attempting to tear a piecec of good luck from her body. Instead of having her dress ripped to pieces the idea to throw the bouquet of flowers came about. By throwing the flower this allowed the bride time to get away from the crowd fully clothed. The throwing of the bouquet is associated with good fortune and a bit of fun. At my wedding my wife will throw her bouquet I just hope none of my baby sisters cathes it.
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